Effects of Grief of losing loved one and how to overcoming it
An enquiry for a cremation jewellery and ashes into diamond from Janet Jones has lead to an upcoming radio interview on UK health radio with Janet who is the host of The Good Grief Conversation. With her podcasts, Janet takes you on an inspiring journey, with authors, healers, psychologists, scientists and more.
“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” Laurel K Hamilton
After suffering personal loss Janet understands the importance of dealing with grief, when good and ready too, and in your own way.
What does grief feel like?
Grieving is a process as unique as every individual who experiences it. Most people feel deep sadness or depression, shock denial or numbness, even angry and overwhelmed. There really is no right or wrong ways to feel following a loss.
Common physical symptoms of grief are the results of emotional distress, may include: A hollow feeling in your stomach, a tightness in the chest or throat. Some experiences of oversensitivity to noise, feeling tired and weak. As well as a lack of energy, change in eating and sleeping patterns and even aches and pains.
There are some tips for dealing with grief
1. Maintain good health.
It may seem impossible to think about maintaining good health when it’s difficult to simply get through each day. It’s okay to just go through the motions at first (fake it until you make it). It is normal to struggle at the beginning.
2. Be kind and patient to yourself.
Be gentle with yourself, and take as much time as possible, don’t try keep busy, but do things will help you smooth your mind. Don’t rush to feel past grief, take as long as you need. It is important is coming to terms with loss at your own pace and own way and also understanding your missed ones
4. Physical Reminder
Sometimes a physical reminder like pictures or mementoes of your loved one will help you feel the connection.
The idea of an ash urn necklace, or ash ring would establish a real sense personally connection. Most people see and feel physical presence is lovingly reassuring. A beautiful pendants holding a small amount of cremation ashes keeping your loved ones close and overcome the darker days.
5. Exercise and outdoor air
Walking for five minutes every day, and then gradually increasing the amount of time you walk.
6. Good Companionship and peer support
Don’t forget about social connections, which are crucial to good health. Stay in touch with friends and loved ones. Try to get out of your house and spend time with others, even if it’s to talk about your grief.
On a personal level I have been to Death Cafe meet-ups in London to talk about death, and life, in a relaxed and open setting. Their objective is ‘to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives’. It is a discussion group rather than a grief support or counselling session.
7. Asking for professional help
Sometimes we stuck in our deep grief and we need help on our physical and mental help, we need professional help to us to overcome. There a support organisation such as cruse bereavement care or talk to your GP for more medical help.