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Effects of Grief & Overcoming it

Effects of Grief & Overcoming it

There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. Laurel K Hamilton

An enquiry for an Algordanza memorial diamond from Janet Jones has lead to an upcoming radio interview on UK health radio with Janet who is the host of The Good Grief Conversation,  With her podcasts, Janet takes you on an inspiring journey, with authors, healers, psychologists, scientists and more.                                                                                                     
After suffering personal loss Janet understands the importance of dealing with grief, when good and ready too, and in your own way.

Common physical symptoms of grief may include a hollow feeling in your stomach, a tightness in the chest or throat, oversensitivity to noise, feeling tired and weak, a lack of energy, change in eating and sleeping patterns and aches and pains. Most of these side effects are the result of emotional distress responses, explains Dr. Maureen Malin, a geriatric psychiatrist with Harvard-affiliated McLean Hospital.

Picking up the pieces

It may seem impossible to think about maintaining good health when it’s difficult to simply get through each day. But Dr. Malin says it’s okay to just go through the motions at first (fake it until you make it).

  • That may mean walking for five minutes every day, and then gradually increasing the amount of time you walk.
  • Even if you don’t feel like eating, go ahead and eat three healthy meals per day anyway. Your body needs calories to function, even if you’re not hungry. Eating too little may add to fatigue.
  • And don’t forget about social connections, which are crucial to good health. Stay in touch with friends and loved ones. Try to get out of your house and spend time with others, even if it’s to talk about your grief.

On a personal level I have been to Death Cafe meet-ups in London to talk about death, and life, in a relaxed and open setting. Their objective is ‘to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives’. A Death Cafe is a group directed discussion of death with no agenda, objectives or themes. It is a discussion group rather than a grief support or counselling session.

It is important is coming to terms with loss at your own pace and own way and also understanding your missed ones

What I hope to achieve with offering Algordanza memorial diamonds and my own memorial jewellery business is keeping a connection with your loved ones as it is often stated by most people “sorry for your loss” and it is that feeling of losing someone. A diamond made purely from your loved ones ashes set in a pendant keeping them close to your heart or a stunning diamond ring where you see and feel their presence is lovingly reassuring. As is our range of beautiful pendants holding a small amount of cremation ashes keeping your loved ones close at all times.


Poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep

I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.